Analysis: funeral rituals have changed over the years, but they still reflect the deep respect for death that is innate in Irish society

The way the Irish do funerals is known and often admired the world over. The rituals surrounding it allow for a celebration of the life of the deceased - and allow the bereaved to mourn, grieve and hopefully recover in a healthy manner. It involves physically gathering together with large numbers of people and is a way for the community to mark the passing of one of their members and show solidarity to those who have lost their loved ones.

In Ireland, you don’t just attend funerals of people you know - there is an unspoken rule that you attend funerals of those closely related to people you know too. Indeed, there is not only an expectation that you attend funerals, but also that your next of kin will give you a "good" and "proper" funeral after you die

Irish funerals can draw large crowds into the hundreds, usually culminating in a great queue at the end of the service for mourners to shake hands and personally express sympathy. For the bereaved, seeing people turn up in this way acknowledges their grief and can be of enormous succour.

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The wake that allows time to be spent with the body can help enormously in the grieving process, as can the funeral service and burial, with the time taken and numbers involved, the choir, the guards of honour and the long procession of mourners. After the burial, there is time taken to share food with neighbours and friends.

How Irish funerals have changed

Many Irish funeral rituals evolved over time to become what we are familiar with today and old customs have been routinely modernised to keep up with the times. Death notices, originally published in newspapers, became required listening for many on local radio, and now appear on dedicated websites. In recent years, memorial cards have included more modern design. Recently, the post-funeral tea and sandwiches in the house became a meal at a local hotel.

But with all these changes and more, the Irish fascination with funerals never faltered. They remain part of a deep-seated respect for death that is innate in Irish society. But where did this come from and what did these customs themselves evolve from?

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Irish funeral rituals evolved from a set of much older customs. Over the years, some were actively discouraged by the Roman Catholic church and others were discarded as we Irish strove to become more "civilised". Before the Great Famine, more primal aspects dominated Irish wakes and funerals, handed down from ancient times when fear of the dead was very strong.

Wake rituals came about as a type of appeasement of the dead from pre-Christian times when the dead were regarded with fear, wrote Seán Ó Suilleabháin in Irish Wake Amusements. The wake therefore was a feast in honour of the person who had passed on, to placate them and say farewell.

Professional keeners

The thought of paying a professional mourner to perform at a funeral may seem bizarre to us today, but it was the norm at many Irish funerals in the past. Professional keeners performed a type of wailing song that lamented the dead, praised the deceased and expressed grief, but also reprimanded them for dying.

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This was in opposition to Christian funerary rites where the Resurrection is emphasised. It did not help that keeners honed a wild look with dishevelled clothing, bare feet and loosened hair. The Catholic church was actively hostile to them, and some priests even publicly chastised and jostled with keeners at funerals. The tradition had largely died out by the beginning of the 20th century.

Smoking clay pipes

Another lost tradition is the custom of smoking from clay pipes, which were filled with tobacco for visitors to the wake house to take. People would light the pipe and take a pull, exclaiming "Lord have mercy on their soul". Non-smokers were fully expected to partake of the ritual and snuff was also taken. After the funeral, the wake pipes were ritualistically broken in two and buried outside. This persisted until the late 20th century, when trays of cigarettes were passed around at wakes instead of pipes, before the custom died out completely.

Games to stay awake

There are a profusion of Irish wake customs. Protecting the corpse, the bereaved and the house was crucial as it was believed that the time between death and burial was a liminal, dangerous one when bad spirits were about. Rooted in Judeo-Christian religion, the wake is for three days prior to that person's burial, and the corpse is observed to ensure it does not awaken or "wake". The corpse was not left alone in the lead up to the funeral, and mourners would sit up all night accompanying it.

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From RTÉ Radio 1's Today with Claire Byrne, interview with Kevin Toolis, author of My Father's Wake: How the Irish Teach Us to Live, Love and Die

After the final prayers of the evening, "wake amusements" or games kept mourners awake through the night. Stories were told, usually funny tales featuring the deceased. Waking games included performing tongue twisters, feats of strength, acrobatics, tricks and pranks. Sometimes organised fights took place. Some games included mock weddings, mock confessions and "kissing games" which had lewd and erotic overtones.

In what might seem shocking to today's reader, the corpse itself was often included. It was not unknown for a clay pipe to be given or a deck of cards placed in their hands. There are stories of the corpse being made to talk, puppet-like, by mourners, and even taken up for a dance.

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From RTÉ Radio 1's Documentary On One, House Strictly Private looks at the Irish wake and its origins back to an ancient Jewish custom (first broadcast in 1975)

Despite these lively customs, the overriding mood at a wake was of reverence for the dead, and disrespect was not meant. Merriment was dispensed with if the deceased was a young parent, a child or had died tragically.

To consolidate control over Irish souls, suppression of such ‘pagan’ customs was necessary by the Roman Catholic church and after the Famine many of those traditions died out. However, at a typical Irish wake today, mourners tell stories and share a laugh when the formalities are out of the way. This can be a wonderful relief from any tension and sadness.

Such merriment is permissible at Irish wakes and is most likely to have descended from these ancient customs. Funeral customs will continue to evolve as they always have done, but Irish people will always retain their respect for honouring the dead.


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