Have you thought about taking your last breath? Have you considered where you'd like that to happen? Do you want to die at home, if you have the choice, or in a hospital or in a hospice?

Talking about dying and even thinking about it is not something that we tend to do, but if we don't start facing up to the inevitability of death, we will end up having decisions made for us by people who don't know what we want.

That's what happened to one man, who was very ill and in his 90s when he was admitted to hospital at the end of his life.

His two sons, both in their 70s, accompanied him to hospital, and palliative care doctor Kathryn Mannix asked if he'd discussed his wishes around death with them.

One of the sons said that his father did try to talk to him about it, but the son had told him not to be so miserable and ended the conversation.

Many of us feel like the son in that story - that talking about death and dying is uncomfortable, but the result in that case was a very elderly man, taking his last breaths in an acute hospital where no one knew if he wanted treatment or just to be allowed to go without intervention.

We know that in Ireland, we are very poor at the "death" conversation because research from the Irish Hospice Foundation tells us that seven in 10 of us have not made a will - including 53% of people with children who have no will made.

Why are we so willing to risk leaving our nearest and dearest with a big logistical mess after we die? 

Shay Bradley from Dublin died last month and the prank he played at his own funeral made headlines around the world.

Shay organised for a recording of his own voice to be heard after his burial ceremony. The mourners heard him knocking on the coffin pleading to be let out.

When you hear that story, you wonder how your own heart would bear up if you were standing at the graveside.

But when you see the video recorded when it happened, his family - and especially his grandchildren - go from sadness and tears to belly-laughing, and that is exactly what Shay wanted. 

Most people in Ireland say they want to die at home, but the facts are that 48% of us die in acute hospitals.

Does that tell us that death, the most natural of life events, has become a medical event and in ways is seen as a failure of medicine?

And we have to ask ourselves why, if we want to die at home, are we dying in such numbers in hospital?

All of this points to the need to talk about death and dying - to tell people what we want, write it down, make a will and be ready for it. 

After all, it happens to the best of us.

Have you chosen your coffin? Have you made a death plan? Do you know someone who has written down exactly how they would like their death and funeral to happen? If so, let us know, as we’ll be discussing this topic on Claire Byrne Live.

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