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Sophie Ellis-Bextor says she discusses toxic masculinity with her five sons

Sophie Ellis-Bextor has said she has "a lot of faith" in her five sons
Sophie Ellis-Bextor has said she has "a lot of faith" in her five sons

Pop singer Sophie Ellis-Bextor has said she has "a lot of faith" in her five sons and has chatted to them about toxic masculinity.

The Murder On The Dancefloor singer, 46, is mother to Mickey, Jesse, Ray, Kit and Sonny, whom she shares with her husband, musician Richard Jones.

Ellis-Bextor said while she will "keep an eye on" their mobile phones, she does not demonise things that could "shut down communication".

In recent months the success of hit Netflix show Adolescence has sparked conversations around misogyny among young boys online and the radicalisation of young men, with the creators discussing the topic in UK Parliament in April.

Ellis-Bextor told Good Housekeeping UK: "I've always had a lot of faith in my boys. We’ve openly chatted about toxic masculinity for a long time.

"My eldest is very articulate about these things, so none of it was new to my house. Sometimes people have an idea of what boys are like, as if they’re a different species.

"As I far as I’m concerned, I’m raising five people who happen to be boys. I keep an eye on (mobile phone screen time), because that’s parenting, but if you start demonising things, you shut down communication.

"Then you’re like those parents in the 1950s who made kids burn their rock 'n’ roll albums."

LONDON, ENGLAND - MAY 13: Sophie Ellis-Bextor performs at The Elephant Family Evening of Art and Conservation at Kew Gardens on May 13, 2025 in London, England. The Elephant Family was founded by Her Majesty's brother, the late Mark Shand, in 2002, and is known for vibrant campaigns like the Big Egg
Ellis-Bextor said while she will "keep an eye on" their mobile phones, she does not demonise things that could "shut down communication"

Speaking about her husband, Ellis-Bextor added: "When we got married, we’d already had our first baby.

"My mum said: ‘Make sure you always choose each other over anything else, even the kids.’ She was right. Even though the kids might roll their eyes if they see us hugging or whatever, they’re happy that we’re happy.

"We have fun as a family, too. Last year, they came with us for a lot of the tour."

LONDON, ENGLAND - FEBRUARY 18: Richard Jones and Sophie Ellis-Bextor attend the British Vogue And Tiffany & Co. Celebrate Fashion And Film Party 2024 at Annabel's on February 18, 2024 in London, England. (Photo by Jed Cullen/Dave Benett/Getty Images)
Ellis-Bextor opened up about her relationship with her musician husband, Richard Jones

The singer also discussed her forthcoming album, Perimenopop, a play on the words perimenopause and pop.

"There’s still this idea that only young people make pop music," she said.

"As soon as I had the new album title, I felt like, ‘Now I can literally be myself.’

"This album is about poking fun at this gloomy chapter and the narrative around it that women should be quietening down and becoming invisible… I don’t feel like that at all."

Source: PA

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