Start Again in 2010 - Smoker Veronica
Thursday, 28 January 2010
At the start of the month we launched our "Start Again in 2010" campaign. We have chosen two groups of people to focus on. We have taken 3 Mum's who are hoping to shift some of their baby weight and we are taking 3 smokers who have tried everything to stop and really want to. We will follow them for 10 weeks and join them on their journey as they try to achieve the goals they have set for themselves. With the help of a panel of experts we hope to make this happen for them
Why is it Relevant Today?
Today we meet Veronica again with her expert EFT Practitioner Norah Sweetman to talk about how Veronica is getting on with EFT. All our smokers stopped on Monday the 18th of Jan. This should be day 11 for Veronica being smoke free.
Who Is The Guest?
EXPERT - EFT Practitioner Norah Sweetman
She started her teaching career in Montessori and moved through all school age levels, youth projects, adult education and community development. She designs & delivers professional training and development, mentoring, career advice, CV design and life coaching. She uses many different methodologies in her work with clients of all ages and backgrounds.
She discovered EFT three years ago through Gary's DVD's when she was in bed with a recurrent back pain. While watching the DVD's I was amazed to find my back pain improving. This was her first experience of "borrowing benefits". This led her to the Intensive Practitioners Course in America where I saw for herself the type of dramatic relief from physical and emotional pain she had seen on screen. She is currently giving EFT workshops and practising EFT with private clients. She finds it an exciting and fulfilling experience that empowers both herself and her clients.
. In studio with Veronica and Norah 30 second VT reminder of who Veronica is.
. Play the VT of Veronica and Norah's first session together.
What is EFT?
EFT, the emotional tapping technique, is an easy to learn self help technique that relieves stress and physical pain. The method requires that the person taps gently on a series of their accupcture points while vocalizing their issue in a structured way. Combining the tapping on acupuncture points with verbalizing the problem restores the balance in the energy system, relieves pain and stress symptoms and allows tee body and mind to resume its natural healing.
How long have you being practicing and why did you get involved?
I have been practicing since Autumn 2008 following a practitioners training in America in Sept 2008. As to why I got involved. In 2007, I was on the couch with a recurrent back problem when my colleague Michelle sent me the EFT DVD's series on healing pain with Gary Craig (The founder of EFT) As I watched the DVD's and tapped along with all these people with their problems and pains, I found a dramatic improvement in my back pain which lasted. I started to use some of the techniques on myself. Then I attended a community workshop led by Michelle, and saw the effectiveness of EFT, the rest is history.
How can it help someone to stop smoking?
The EFT approach to ceasing smoking works on several different levels:
EFT teaches techniques to tap away immediate cravings,
Identifies the emotional drivers that keep you hooked on the smoking, for example, any emotional events attached to starting and/or resuming smoking, the feelings and emotions attached to smoking, limiting beliefs around smoking, and the motivation to stop, Learn the tapping technique to neutralize the old patterns and compulsions.
Dealing with the past, present and future smoking behaviors and beliefs. The client works out strategies to cope with trigger times events and places. Essential for relapse prevention.
EFT works on the emotions and beliefs that underlie the smoking, empowering the client to regain control of their choices and maintain a different life style free of cigarettes.
What does a session involve?
. Taking the clients history, medical and psychological.
. The history and background to the problem.
. The feelings and emotions associated with the issue.
. How it affects everyday life and relationships,
. Take an intensity level e.g. Ask client to rate the intensity of the problem on a scale of 1 to 10.Ten being very intense (essential to see how effective the session is)
. Then do a Set Up Statement.... Which involves naming the problem and an affirmation of self acceptance e.g. "Even though I have this craving I accept myself anyway"
repeat this three times wile tapping on the karate chop point on the hand.
Then tap the round on the acupuncture points expressing all the aspects of the problem Example :
. eyebrow point "these smokes I hate them" ,
. side of eye " I can't give them up"
. under eye " I hate my cough"
. under nose " they are my only treat"
. under mouth " its how I relax"
. collarbone " these smokes I love them"
. underarm " everyone nagging me"
. under chest " the doctor says they are making me sick"
. wrists together "so good with a coffee"
. top of head " they are part of my life"
Do several rounds if necessary till the negative feelings and craving has dropped lower, to less than 7 then repeat the process starting with a Set Up Statement that reflects the change "Even though I still have some cravings I love and accept myself anyway" this time the tapping round will include some positive statements of choice example
eyebrow point "the wiser part of me knows I can make better choices " side of eye " I love my fags but my health is more important finish the round with whatever aspects or feelings belong to you.
For immediate cravings I would tap on a set up "even though I have these cravings I love and accept myself anyway" then tap the acupuncture points just verbalizing the craving, " I need a smoke" I want a smoke with my coffee" until it drops in
intensity then change to choices.
The practitioner leads the examples based on what the client has told them and the feedback the client gives after each round. The client will always change and add to what the practitioner suggests. The practitioner checks the intensity level with the client through the session. The session finishes with a review of the work done a positive round round and a tapping plan to help with cravings throughout the week.
What is the success rate with EFT?
A study with Carol Look EFT Master and expert in using EFT for addictions claimed an 80% success rate on giving up cigarettes with those who committed to the practice of her method. Two of my clients who have given up smoking, one has 100% success and the other has stopped her entire health programme due to her mother's illness. We are also conducting a survey with our clients at present and awaiting results
Is it easy to Practice at home?
The basic EFT skills can be learned with a practitioner or from the Gary Craig manual free from emofree.com or from a weekend workshop. When learned is very easy to practice at home, or elsewhere, However major physical or emotional issues would require an experienced practitioner. While EFT has great results in clearing pain and
stress, it is not a substitute for medical attention. EFT is a self help tool.
What do you intend to do with Veronica to help her achieve her goals
and stop her smoking?
Using the model session outlined in the previous question, I design an individual programme that works on her underlying issues that drive her smoking and the everyday challenges that she faces. The programme will be tailored to meet her changing needs as we work towards a new lifestyle.
How do you think Veronica will cope with EFT? Are you confident that you will be able to help her stop smoking?
She is in great form and felt full of energy and noticed an improvement in her breathing already. I am confident that if she continues with my guidance and support she will succeed. We are working on two levels .She has a simple method that reduces her cravings as they arise and a daily plan to focus on the new life and all the benefits of her non smoking.
How did your last session go?
Friday session in her house
She is still off the cigarettes and is very happy .she said she feels full of energy, very proud of herself and is thinking of all sorts of future plans including doing some courses.
We checked in on all that's going on and she expressed a fear that "it's the calm before the storm, its too easy" she also mentioned getting a bit short tempered in the evenings as a concern, and Saturday night when she was out.
So we addressed the three issues :
CRAVINGS ..We tapped away the current ones and practiced an evening round to do before she gets stressed and also to build in little breaks and treats in the evening like sitting with her daughter in the lovely fresh house having a chat
LIMITING BELIEFS." Its too easy"..We rewrote her morning tapping round and included gratitude for it being easy and a belief that it will continue to be easy
Veronica had a big night out coming upon Saturday and was a bit concerned about it, as there is a lot of smokers, and going to the smoking area would be part of the night.
SATURDAY NIGHT we tapped on her reasons for wanting to be a nonsmoker and she said health and new energy
So we practiced rounds and took a few key phrases she can tap on her fingers if needed in the pub. We also planned that she will ask a non smoking friend to sit with her and chat while others go out .Paddy her husband will make it clear to visitors that it's a non smoking house. We agreed that I would ring her on Sat and Sun and email the notes from our session to her friend Laura who is also becoming a non smoker.
Is there are right and wrong way to do EFT?
The actual method is simple but what makes it powerful in effecting change is connecting to the core issues behind the physical symptoms or emotional feelings. Cravings, compulsions and stress all produce similar results in how we feel and behave, the success of EFT lies in the way it uncovers the emotional drivers behind our behavior.
What do you think are the main reasons that people fail to reach their goal of stopping smoking?
I know from personal experience and my work with clients that a clear motivation is vital on the part of the person quitting, I also know that if the core reason at a subconscious level is not addressed the person will often relapse when under pressure for example if a person truly believes that cigarettes calm them and offer the only treat they have in the day they will often start to smoke again when distressed. With EFT I will work on those deep-seated beliefs and patterns with the client and they will replace them with choices that are meaningful to them and start to fill the emotional need they were previously meeting with cigarettes.
What advice would you have for anyone that is thinking of stopping smoking?
Start to educate yourself about all the methods available. Enlist the help of family and friends, start to say to yourself i am choosing health and freedom not i am giving up.. Don't be tempted to have one they are very addictive! Use a method that supports you in changing your mindset and be prepared for some possible mood changes.Cigarettes are famous for suppressing emotions if you slip start again and do something special with the money