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Emotional Makeover

Tuesday, 8 December 2009

We launched a survey on Monday 14th September to find out how our viewers feel about body image and the pressure on us all to look a certain way and be a certain size. Some of the results we found were:


Here on The Afternoon Show, we want to try change how we all feel about ourselves.

In the weeks leading up to Christmas, we want to take 3 of our viewers on a journey of rediscovery to help them change how they feel about themselves and make them happier and more confident in their own skin.

Brian Colbert

Brian Colbert is regarded as one of the leading consultants in the area of Personal Growth in Ireland today. Brian is a Licensed Master Trainer of Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). Brian adheres to his own personal philosophy of always being true to yourself, honouring your destiny and living life to the full. His warmth, authenticity, curiosity and passion for life are contagious. His charismatic training style often swings delicately between the profound and the downright funny, which allows learning to become an interesting and fun experience.

Brian has a broad academic knowledge of the whole field of personal growth. However it is not academic knowledge he relies on for results but rather his own personal life experience and the experience of relating to thousands of individuals on a basic human level over the last twenty years. He is presently a director and co-founder of the IRISH INSTITUTE OF NLP where he spends much of his time developing and presenting NLP to enable people to reach their true potential. He is married, has two young boys and lives in Dublin.

Emotional Makeover breakdown:-

Week 1

We met the three participants for the first time, we saw their video profiles and had a quick word from Brian on all three about what he feels their main problems are.

Week 2

We re-visit Tammy McGurk as she has an NLP session with Brian Colbert, with advice off the back for Tammy + video diaries of Elaine Bogle and Louise Conneely

Week 3

We re-visit Louise Conneely as she has an NLP session with Brian Colbert, with advice off the back for Louise + video diaries of Tammy McGurk and Elaine Bogle

Week 4 ( LAST WEEK )

We re-visit Elaine Bogle as she has an NLP session with Brian Colbert, with advice off the back for Louise + video diaries of Tammy McGurk and Louise Conneely

Week 5 ( THIS WEEK )

The girls won't be in studio but we will have video diaries of all three. Brian will be talking us through the most important points he's faced with our three participants.

Week 6 ( NEXT WEEK )

We'll find out how the girls got on in their challenge!

Name: Tammy McGurk
Age: 49
Location: Westmeath
Main problems: Dealing with grief, became quite introverted

Tammy's challenge:

Because Tammy became quite introverted after the death of her sister, we wanted to push Tammy to reveal once again the colourful, bubbly self that's underneath so we have made her the host of the event! This means she will have to:

. Meet and greet
. Help people mingle
. Make opening and closing speeches

Name: Louise Conneely
Age: 37
Location: Galway
Main problems: Disliked social situations, felt people
were judging her

Louise's Challenge:

We decided to throw Louise right into the middle of a social situation! She has had trouble with crowds at events, so we've asked her to give a presentation to the women about something she has become very interested in: baby sign language!

Name: Elaine Bogle
Age: 24
Location: Balbriggan
Main problems: Struggled with one-to-one conversation, self-confidence

Elaine's challenge:

Elaine has experience as a beautician, so we decided to put her in an RTÉ dressing room to do the make-up of a few of the ladies and practice her conversational skills!

Self Image: The Swish Pattern Exercise

Your self-image is literally what it says it is: an image of yourself inside your mind.
This image dictates how you present yourself to the world .It also determines how you feel about yourself and how you are likely to respond to behavioural change.

Last week when I worked with Louise, she stated that one of the most effective exercises for her was The Swish Pattern. The Swish Pattern is an NLP exercise developed by Dr. Richard Bandler. This simple exercise produces a change in how you view yourself; this makes it so that you are more open, and likely to achieve the behavioural changes you are looking for. It can be used when working on self confidence, or with weight loss, smoking cessation, and lots more. This is how I used it on Louise.

1. I asked Louise to close her eyes and to see herself in her minds eye and to tell me what she saw.
(Needless to say Louise's picture of herself was not complimentary).

2. Next I asked her to close her eyes and imagine herself as she would ideally like to be after she made all the changes that she wanted in her life.
(I helped her to work on the elements of that image, we added in some sounds, and some movement and created a little movie in her mind of the successful event.)

3. Then I asked her to close her eyes again and to think of herself as she did the first time (this is her negative self image).

4. As she was looking at that image I asked her to imagine placing a tiny white dot in the centre of the image.

5. Then I asked her to imagine this tiny dot getting larger and larger unfolding and opening out over and onto the image.

6. As the dot got bigger I asked to imagine her successful self stepping gloriously and enthusiastically right through the white opening and then allowing that new successful happier more confident self image of hers filling her entire mind and replacing the older negative self image.

7. As soon as she had done this I asked her to open her eyes and when she did I got her to immediately close them.

8. Once she did, I got her to begin the process again.

9. Each time getting her to open her eyes and quickly close them again at the end of the procedure.

Now each time Louise looks at her self in her mind what she sees is a positive vibrant happy successful self. The old negative image has in effect been wiped out.