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Emotional Makeover - Louise Conneely

Tuesday, 24 November 2009

We launched a survey on Monday the14th of September to find out how our viewers feel about body image and the pressure on us all to look a certain way and be a certain size. Some of the results we found were:


Here on The Afternoon Show, we want to try change how we all feel about ourselves.

In the weeks leading up to Christmas, we want to take 3 of our viewers on a journey of rediscovery to help them change how they feel about themselves and make them happier and more confident in their own skin.

Brian Colbert
Brian Colbert is regarded as one of the leading consultants in the area of Personal Growth in Ireland today. Brian is a Licensed Master Trainer of Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). Brian adheres to his own personal philosophy of always being true to yourself, honouring your destiny and living life to the full. His warmth, authenticity, curiosity and passion for life are contagious. His charismatic training style often swings delicately between the profound and the downright funny, which allows learning to become an interesting and fun experience.

Brian has a broad academic knowledge of the whole field of personal growth. However it is not academic knowledge he relies on for results but rather his own personal life experience and the experience of relating to thousands of individuals on a basic human level over the last twenty years. He is presently a director and co-founder of the IRISH INSTITUTE OF NLP where he spends much of his time developing and presenting NLP to enable people to reach their true potential. He is married, has two young boys and lives in Dublin.

Louise Conneely
Louise Conneely is a 37 year-old mum of two from Galway who lives with her partner Chris. She is a full-time mother of a 3 year old girl Jessica and a 18 month old boy Conor. She has been on some form of a diet on and off since her early teens. Has terrible trouble with social events, can never choose what to wear, panics at how other people will see her. Gave up teaching Montessori to mind her kids and finds picking up the extra energy to mind them extremely difficult some days. Would love some renewed confidence in herself.

Emotional Makeover breakdown

Week 1
We met the three participants for the first time, we saw their video profiles and had a quick word from Brian on all three about what he feels their main problems are.

Week 2 ( LAST WEEK )
We re-visit Tammy McGurk as she has an NLP session with Brian Colbert, with advice off the back for Tammy + video diaries of Elaine Bogle and Louise Conneely

Week 3 ( THIS WEEK )
We re-visit Louise Conneely as she has an NLP session with Brian Colbert, with advice off the back for Louise + video diaries of Tammy McGurk and Elaine Bogle

Week 4 ( NEXT WEEK )
We re-visit Louise Bogle as she has an NLP session with Brian Colbert, with advice off the back for Louise + video diaries of Tammy McGurk and Louise Conneely

Developing a better self image

Self Concept: Mirror Image

Exercise One

People with poor self images have bland, weak, dull boring, critical, unclear dark or embarrassing or negative disappointing pictures of themselves that they bring to mind each time they think of themselves.

They can be so used to doing this that the pictures themselves can be unconscious.

If you are like that you need to upgrade and update your self image database.

What follows is a light hearted fun exercise to change the images that you have stored inside your head of yourself.

Next time you visit the mirror.
Before you get a chance to view yourself properly.
Give yourself a big grin and wink at your reflection.
Next see what you see.

If you like what you see then be sure to sigh off with a smile while saying playfully to yourself that you are stunning gorgeous human being , that you're gods gift, a walking Prima Donna whatever .You don't have to believe but make it extreme enough that it gets a chuckle from get the jist!

If you don't like what you see give yourself a cheeky smile and say to yourself that even though you are looking rough that you and me (to your reflection) both know that deep down you are a goddess / legend, a Titan, a princess, whichever is appropriate .just be sure that what you say produces a smile, even if it is a sarcastic one that's better than leaving with a negative attitude.

Do this each and every time you can, the worst it can do is making you laugh and that's a good thing!

Self Concept: Mirror Image Exercise Two

Many of us when we look in the mirror find specific faults or shortcomings in what we see.

So when we view our reflection, we target aspects or features of our bodies and go on the rampage.

Whether its your hips are too big, thighs too fat , nose to sharp, ears sticking out too far , the list can be endless.

None of this is useful.

The following exercise is also designed to enhance your self image and to give you a wider perspective on who you really are.

Next time you stand in front of the mirror and decide to criticize certain parts of your body, (I would prefer if you wouldn't criticize but I doubt that you will do that), so instead I am going to ask you to include the following commentaries.

If you don't like your eyes ..remind yourself that these are the eyes that witness the great beauty that fills your life , perhaps the smile on your child's face, the loving look from a loved one, the little puppy that playfully tugs at your feet , these eyes give you all of this and more .

If you don't like your arms, remind yourself that these are the arms that reach out and hug your loved ones to draw them near to your heart. .

If you don't like your body, remind yourself this is the very body that your loved ones love to squeeze and hug.

If you don't like your chest remind yourself that remind yourself that this houses your heart and all of the beautiful emotions that you are capable of experiencing, emotions like love, laughter, joy, happiness, delight, fun, curiosity etc.

Remind yourself that you are not just what you see.
You are what others see too.

You are just a court of one.
Surely their opinions count too.
And if so many other people love you for what you are and how you look isn't it only fair that you give you a better chance too?

If you are not happy with parts of how you look, then decide to do what you can with what you have.
Remind yourself of all those beautiful people who are not necessarily physically attractive.
If you want to be beautiful, you have to start with thinking beautiful thoughts.

If you want to be more attractive you have got to think more attractive thoughts.
The best way to do this is to be more forgiving of your own shortcomings.

See yourself with kinder eyes.
Give yourself the support you would give a best friend.
You are not done unless you give up!
So stop giving up on yourself and decide to always be a work in progress.

Healthy Eating Exercise - How to eat as naturally slim people do.

Eat whenever you're hungry.
Eat whatever you want not what you think you should.
Eat slowly and consciously and savour every mouthful
When you think you are full, stop eating.
Repeat the process each time you are hungry.

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